1.  Why did you create this blog and OkCupid profile?-I think being genuinely fed up with the kinds of messages I was receiving was my primary motivation for doing this. I would get so fed up at every copied and pasted message etc., that I would deactivate my profile. What's the good in that? Therefore, I came back on and decided I could maybe save some other girls the trouble, while helping people put their best foot forward. 

2.  Can you tell me how to fix my profile?
-Sure I can, I do it all the time.  But first, I need to see that you have read this page and made some changes.  After that, feel free to drop me a message and I will take a look.

3.  Are you single and looking, or just full of advice?
-At this time, my profile is simply there to assist.  

4.  How do I know if it's my messages or my profile that needs work?
-Send me a few of your best messages that you've sent.  If I can see your best work AND your profile, I'll be able to figure out where you need to focus your energy.

5.  Why is your OkCupid profile so long? No one is ever going to read it.
- It's long because everything on it is important.  This blog should make it easier for you to find what you are looking for, however, many people do sit down and give it all a read through.

6.  I've done everything you said, why am I still single?
- I can do the best that I can to help you. But, I will never be able to identify whether you are messaging the right kinds of people for you, or know what your chemistry is like on that first date.  Know that these things DO take time, and new people make profiles every day.  You never know when the right person is going to find online dating, so stay focused and patient. "Good things come to those who wait."

7.  What about sites other than OkCupid?
Many people who utilize OkCupid also use other free dating websites.  I have spent time on Plenty of fish and have found it to be less comprehensive than OkCupid.  POF has more people, so you are more likely to get messages. However, it also takes a lot less time to fill out a profile, and tends to attract less serious daters or people who are just seeing what's out there. You'll also get a lot of messages at the beginning, but they do slow down over time. I always say that OkCupid is far superior because of the match percentage feature. It was created by Harvard grads using mathematical algorithms to predict the people you are most compatible with. It's science, and it works.