Thursday, July 12, 2012
WHEN TO TAKE IT OFFLINE:
One question I have been getting that I never gave much thought to as a female is about finding the right time to take your new friendship/blossoming relationship offline. After reviewing what I have found to work, I would like to share it with you. Take notes, get a post-it, tell it to Siri, but don’t forget it: Skype, skype, skype.
Here’s why:
I actually don't meet anyone from online unless I Skype with them first. It is the fastest way to determine whether you click with someone before you actually go out and meet them. I originally started doing it because you never know what creeper is on the other side of the screen, but it turned out to have other benefits. It makes the first date a lot more comfortable in my experience. People tend to be less nervous and can focus more on just having a good time together and less on saying the wrong thing. Helps weed out the socially awkward too, who can type all day long but can't carry on a basic conversation, never mind an intelligent one. I recommend it to people frequently on here, and it seems to help bridge the gap between when to take it offline. It's casual, you're in your own comfortable environment, and it's just all around great for taking the pressure off for when it really counts.

Aside from including Skype into your routine, here are some other suggestions:
1. Leave it online for a while-I KNOW that we are impatient and waiting for messages back and forth on this website is a pain in the ass, and giving someone your number can avoid all the inconvenience. Don’t. In a smartphone society, the Okcupid app makes communication faster and easier, and if someone is into you they will find a way. I recommend waiting at least a week before giving someone your number. This benefits you too, because you don’t want to be handing crazies your contact information before you have talked long enough for them to tell you that they see dead people.
2. Establish a good sense of who this person is before you meet them. It’s a scary world, and even as a guy you need to be concerned. I had a friend who was talking to someone she was very interested in, but found out he was convicted for driving the getaway car in a string of convenience store robberies. GOOGLE people, just do it. When you do meet them, I recommend that is precisely what you do. Meet them somewhere, don’t pick them up. I know this seems to spoil the romance, but I’m sure you’d rather bring the flowers to the restaurant than have them on your grave because you let someone with bad intentions in your car.
3. Go with what feels right. You should have a gut instinct, and if you aren’t sure if it’s the right time, then it’s probably not.
Written at 11:21 AM by Tori.
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