Thursday, July 12, 2012
THE PHOTOS:
THE PHOTOS:
Hot damn, this section does not receive enough attention. Here are some common photo mistakes that are easy enough to improve upon:
Everyone else. You may not think it’s all that important what the other people in your profile look like, but it does. Many guys think that having a photo surrounded by women arouses the competitive nature of females. We see a ton of women around a gorgeous guy and think “Oh no, he’s MINE.” This is true sometimes, but is not always the case. We might think you’re a manwhore (sorry) or even feel intimidated. If you like to surround yourself with scantily clad females, there’s no way you could ever like a conservative girl (even if she is smokin’ hot). Female self esteem is not always through the roof.
Another biggie is NO ALCOHOL. If you are holding a drink in every picture, you are an advertisement for alcoholism and problems associated with it. We all know that we make mistakes when we are drunk, and if you’re always drinking you might be more likely to bring the drama. These are small, subtle messages that we don’t always realize we are sending.
Tori’s Top 5 Tips for Attractive Photos:
1. Always include one headshot. Even if you aren’t super built, tan, whatever, everyone loves an attractive face.
2. Keep conscious of the surroundings in your picture.
3. Include a photo of yourself doing what you love to do. Try to avoid this being a hobby that is kind of strange (like larping).
4. Include a photo of what you look like on an average day. Pictures of you in a tux are great, and do include those. But we also want to know what you look like when you’re just being you. At least one full-body shot is crucial. If you leave it out, people will think you have something to hide. If you do have something to hide, try at least from the waist up.
5. Avoid weird angles, awkward lighting, and strange faces. From the time we are babies, we are hard wired to respond to smiles (and to smile back). It’s okay (and encouraged) to have varying pictures that include ones without a smile, but psychology research would suggest smiling pictures are beneficial.
The founder of OkCupid appeared on Rachael Ray discussing what they have found works best for pictures. Check it out for more information:
Hot damn, this section does not receive enough attention. Here are some common photo mistakes that are easy enough to improve upon:
Everyone else. You may not think it’s all that important what the other people in your profile look like, but it does. Many guys think that having a photo surrounded by women arouses the competitive nature of females. We see a ton of women around a gorgeous guy and think “Oh no, he’s MINE.” This is true sometimes, but is not always the case. We might think you’re a manwhore (sorry) or even feel intimidated. If you like to surround yourself with scantily clad females, there’s no way you could ever like a conservative girl (even if she is smokin’ hot). Female self esteem is not always through the roof.
Another biggie is NO ALCOHOL. If you are holding a drink in every picture, you are an advertisement for alcoholism and problems associated with it. We all know that we make mistakes when we are drunk, and if you’re always drinking you might be more likely to bring the drama. These are small, subtle messages that we don’t always realize we are sending.
Tori’s Top 5 Tips for Attractive Photos:
1. Always include one headshot. Even if you aren’t super built, tan, whatever, everyone loves an attractive face.
2. Keep conscious of the surroundings in your picture.
3. Include a photo of yourself doing what you love to do. Try to avoid this being a hobby that is kind of strange (like larping).
4. Include a photo of what you look like on an average day. Pictures of you in a tux are great, and do include those. But we also want to know what you look like when you’re just being you. At least one full-body shot is crucial. If you leave it out, people will think you have something to hide. If you do have something to hide, try at least from the waist up.
5. Avoid weird angles, awkward lighting, and strange faces. From the time we are babies, we are hard wired to respond to smiles (and to smile back). It’s okay (and encouraged) to have varying pictures that include ones without a smile, but psychology research would suggest smiling pictures are beneficial.
The founder of OkCupid appeared on Rachael Ray discussing what they have found works best for pictures. Check it out for more information:
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I am a psychology major, and plan to use my knowledge of social psychology and sociology to help you learn what people are looking for in a partner. In addition, I will call upon my own experience as a female and an experienced user of online dating sites to relate this back to real life. On this page, you will read some things that seem like common sense and some that might be new to you. I hope that all of these are helpful.
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My name is Tori, and I have been on and off online dating sites for years and have been fortunate to have relationships come from them. In those years, I am pretty confident that I have seen almost everything. Trust me. As a result, I have finally decided to create a help page for those of you who have yet to find success in online dating.
I am a psychology major, and plan to use my knowledge of social psychology and sociology to help you learn what people are looking for in a partner. In addition, I will call upon my own experience as a female and an experienced user of online dating sites to relate this back to real life. On this page, you will read some things that seem like common sense and some that might be new to you. I hope that all of these are helpful.
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